How Can I Transform Tragedy?

There is only one place where tragedy occurs, and that is in the mind. Tragedy may appear to you on the physical level, however, it is the enormous power of your mind that creates the pain and separation you feel, from Love, from God, from Life itself when you listen to what your egoic thoughts are telling you, rather than listen to the voice of pure love, which can ONLY come from God, Holy Spirit, Divine Source.

Let me give you an analogy that Barbara Rose actually went through as a perceived "tragedy" so that you can better relate to the concepts given to you here.:

Barbara had a former husband that filed lies with a court to gain primary custody of their shared children, to avoid child support obligations that he had previously been sentenced to jail for twice before.

Barbara did not have money for an attorney, and experienced (on the ego and personality level) the injustice in the American justice system: i.e.; if you don't have money for legal representation, then you have pretty much lost before you even have a chance to "win."

Barbara on the ego and personality level experienced "severe and tragic loss" in "what she interpreted to be "losing her children." She nearly took her own life over the injustice she perceived.

It was during many writings, and one in particular, that she received the words of God in her writings, which were: "You did NOT "lose" your children, you are merely sharing for the physical care for them with their father. You are still their mother, and always will be in this lifetime. You can see them, and be very active in their lives, so please understand that this was not a "punishment" or a "tragedy" this was a soul agreement, because you have other work to do in this life, while you are still a mother."

Even if a person "dies" in physical life, they are NOT "dead" at all. They are vibrant and alive on the other side, and often visit loved ones in the physical realm, even if the person in a physical body cannot see their loved one. In MANY cases, the person that "died" is so much HAPPIER and MORE ALIVE on the other side, than they were in their physical life. It is the ego's attachment that causes suffering. Pure Love would say: "I love you, and I know that your soul, spirit, and Life cannot ever be extinguished, so I will see you after this life again, and I will always love you."

Many people try with all of their mind's might to hold on to people, situations, external conditions and a host of other perceived areas as their source of happiness out of attachment. Once whatever the source of attachment is in their life is suddenly "gone" it is viewed as a "tragedy." Love, Light, and God NEVER bring tragedy into people's life. PEOPLE'S MINDS create the tragedy by their THOUGHTS. If something is loved Unconditionally, then there is NOT a condition that MUST be set in order for the love to continue.

Some people LOVE their money. Some people commit suicide when they lose their money. The same is true for a loved one. When you can begin to view the impermanence of things in life as the only constant, combined with Love, you will be free from suffering and tragedy permanently.

If you wish to do something about the madness and chaos you see in this world that was the seeming "cause" of the "tragedy" then you are doing so out of LOVE, which is WHY you will begin to feel better! It is the Love that is your natural state that brings you back into a feeling of wholeness, and oneness once again.

Please remember that the ego is very invested in keeping the status quo ? whatever that may be. The ego has a comfort zone, and anything that disrupts that comfort zone is viewed as a "tragedy." For goodness sake, there are people that get a scratch on their car, and have a fit over it, as if their home fell down a mountain. Moreover, there ARE people that have had their homes slide down a mountain, and were NOT so attached to that structure, and simply went about to buy or build another dwelling.

You are in this life for one purpose only, and that is to Love. It is to become One with your true essence of Love. Once you do, you will never again view something as a tragedy, but will understand the Divine orchestration of this Universe, and realize that you are forever at-one with your Source, and that IS Divine Source. That is all that will ever get you to feel better, is to become one with your true nature, and that is God.

View the things of this world with a LOT less meaning. View the people of this world with a LOT more unconditional Love and compassion. Realize that you do Not OWN another person, but you ARE ONE with ALL people ? always. Release the sense of separation you feel from others, and you will come to know the inner peace of spirit, that dwells in your deepest heart, and is never separate from another spiritual being. All spiritual beings are One. YOU have to take a LOT of your situations much LESS SERIOUSLY. You are not your rent, or your relationship, or your bank account, or job status, or degree, you are Love, period.

When you learn that everything is of Love, you will come to know true inner peace, and will cease to be fraught with despair in the conditions that your eyes may see before you. You will come to trust that your essence, which is pure Love cannot EVER be extinguished. You NEVER "die", your spirit is eternal, every spirit is eternal. Death is the illusion, because it is viewed as "death" however, there is no death there is only eternal life ? so it is the mind's illusion of death, and all other outer conditions that it is attached to, and has not awakened enough yet to free itself (the mind, YOUR mind) of the attachment to outer conditions. That is what was meant by the saying "Be in this world but not of it."

The more you can detach from your external conditions, the more inner peace you will feel. Life is meant to be filled with pure love and joy ? bliss ? at ALL times. So do not let appearances shake you, or get to you. Make your ego's investment in how things "must" be mean less to you, and allow yourself to observe with pure Love, and without judgment. You CAN change the feeling of tragedy by changing your perspective within your mind - where ALL feelings are created.

This may not be the "fix" that you were looking for, as it takes a tremendous amount of wisdom without an ego invested in outcomes to live this message. However, this message is one of truth, so as you ponder it, you will come to understand it more. The truth is eternal, so please do try to contemplate and awaken to this message, because it WILL lead you out of suffering, and it is ONLY your peace of MIND that will transform and overcome ANY seeming tragedy, forever.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved.

Barbara Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.

She works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings through information to create the highest vision of your life, and our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across the globe.

For enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help you become your highest self, visit Barbara's website: http://www.borntoinspire.com

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