Are You Taking Responsibility?

It is time to take responsibility for our actions and the results we create in our lives. It's time to stop expecting someone else to do for us what we are unwilling to do for ourselves. It's time to remember that no one is doing it to us and no one is going to do it for us.

We have the right and the responsibility to powerfully, positively choose what we desire for our lives, and to create our life we must also take the appropriate actions in our world.

I was leading a workshop where people voiced a string of "I can'ts" and one woman said she "wants to be out of debt." There are no "can'ts". Either you choose to or you don't choose to. There is no "trying". Either you do it or you don't.

Remember that your mind does not have a sense of humor, does not know true from false, and does not know fact from fantasy. All your mind knows is what you feed it.

Your mind also has a strange way of eliminating certain words so that if you say "I want to be out of debt" your mind hears the shortened version of "want debt".

If you say you don't want to be afraid, your mind hears "be afraid". When we say "I don't want to forget", we tend to forget. It's best to say "I am remembering". Focus on the positives of what you choose for your life so there is only certainty.

I have had several powerful reminders of this recently when I needed to take responsibility for my own actions.

In one case, I set aside a savings jar for "credit card debt". The money I put in became like a magnet and do you know what happened? Yep! My credit card bills were growing each and every month.

Now, the truth is that I pay my credit cards in full every month, but I got rid of the jar so that I could create prosperity for more joyous events in my life.

In another case, I had a conversation with the director of an organization I'd joined. I'd paid for the membership on-line but she couldn't find the records. I specifically told her "I don't want to be charged twice for this." Do you want to guess what happened? Right again. I was charged twice.

Here are some tips to improve your communication for creating:

1. Avoid using negatives. Take responsibility for your life by making powerful, positive statements of what you choose to experience. Remember that your mind does not have a sense of humor and will take whatever you tell it literally.

2. Be clear, specific, and detailed about what you choose for your life. Invest the time and effort to focus your thoughts so you can get more of what you desire and deserve. If what you get doesn't meet your needs, become even more clear and specific in your choosing.

Be grateful for what you receive, and yet refine and define your choices more powerfully. Conscious creation is your right and your responsibility. You CAN have what you choose.

3. Let go of any old stories you've been telling yourself and others about the past. It's the past. It's gone. You can't go back and redo it, but in the re-telling and re-living you re-create more of the same by keeping the past alive.

Live responsibly by responding, rather than reacting, to life. Learn the lessons you need so you can let go and grow into your powerful, prosperous future.

Instead, vision what you DO choose so that you can feel the excitement of everything you know is coming your way.

4. Be conscious. Be aware. Be awake. Not only of others, but of yourself and what you think, say, and do as a co-creator in your life. Be responsible. If something happens that you hadn't expected, take time to figure out what you did to create it so you can do better in the future. No blame. No shame. Only gain.

Last, but not least, take time to have fun, laugh, and play. Those are the truly exquisite moments in life.

Debbie Friedman, M.S., C.Ht., is the Manifesting Maven who helps people consciously create the life they love to live. She is the creator of the popular Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind for Wealth series.

http://www.CleaningOutTheCloset.com

In The News:

table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd width=80 align=center valign=topfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifa href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://moviesblog.mtv.com/2008/10/09/view-before-viewing-the-express/cid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNGR3zD7B3I9RTvwMyCZAJF3RbKtGgimg src=http://news.google.com/news?imgefp=BCqQmA44bAsJimgurl=moviesblog.mtv.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/100908_theexpress.jpg width=80 height=60 alt= border=1brfont size=-2MTV.com/font/a/font/tdtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.canada.com/surreynow/news/whatson/story.html%3Fid%3Dd1e67b7b-a2d4-47fd-a143-e4b599cfc116cid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNEvLegc5QNj4F7cRjfzQB2M0UF_NAA ball of binspirational/b predictability/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fSurrey Now,nbsp; Canadanbsp;-/font nobr12 hours ago/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1b.../b Gary Fleder#39;s extensive use of close-ups. bInspirational/b? Check. Predictable? Yep. But The Express is a safe bet for sports fans and non-cynics alike./fontbrfont size=-1a href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.dailyherald.com/story/%3Fid%3D241604cid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNHSWWYoLJUpSLHP1-ZEJAG2yzU_vAFootball drama a genuine binspirational/b tale/a font size=-1 color=#6f6f6fnobrChicago Daily Herald/nobr/font/fontbrfont size=-1a href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.boxofficeprophets.com/tickermaster/listing.cfm%3FtmID%3D2818cid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFBWV40aij7uhkb7iob5RcwBMeABQThe Express/a font size=-1 color=#6f6f6fnobrBox Office Prophets/nobr/font/fontbrfont size=-1a href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.ecollegetimes.com/news/2008/10/09/Movies/Review.The.Express-3479781.shtmlcid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNGXx_VTEM0HTUF6rpAqT0IANQcCfAReview: The Express/a font size=-1 color=#6f6f6fnobrCollege Times/nobr/font/fontbrfont size=-1 class=pa href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.baltimoresun.com/entertainment/custom/today/bal-to.express10oct10,0,3109342.storycid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFr0CWJPI6XgAswTzCzRIdd4CZ-ZwnobrBaltimore Sun/nobr/anbsp;- a href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://urbanmecca.net/news/%3Fp%3D4278cid=1255039742ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNF6Bv-EjlWTtCeIx8KZUvbXh-Hf0AnobrUrbanMecca/nobr/a/fontbr/font class=p size=-1a class=p href=http://news.google.com/news?sourceid=navclientie=ISO-8859-1rls=GGLG,GGLG:2005-22,GGLG:enncl=1255039742hl=ennobrall 438 news articles/nobr/a/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd width=80 align=center valign=topfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifa href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.canada.com/calgaryherald/news/swerve/story.html%3Fid%3D0982c085-420c-4b1d-a095-2f284714da1ccid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFyzL7LxYfLYrVg-Y97SJgHsgcn4Aimg src=http://news.google.com/news?imgefp=82qOA1jEwUEJimgurl=a123.g.akamai.net/f/123/12465/1d/media.canada.com/idl/cahr/20081010/128316-46511.jpg%3Fsize%3Dl width=80 height=80 alt= border=1brfont size=-2Calgary Herald/font/a/font/tdtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.canada.com/calgaryherald/news/swerve/story.html%3Fid%3D0982c085-420c-4b1d-a095-2f284714da1ccid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFyzL7LxYfLYrVg-Y97SJgHsgcn4AA new generation of icky, angsty, binspirational/b books for teens b.../b/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fCalgary Herald,nbsp; Canadanbsp;-/font nobr18 hours ago/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1Sure, they text and they Twitter and they play way too much Wii. But all those twitchy, tormented adolescent souls are still able to lose--and then b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.canada.com/calgaryherald/news/swerve/story.html%3Fid%3D4f48bffb-c488-47e1-99bc-032d457c352ecid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFMJ5XLV3mMrpBDNGkCktICPnDG2wA new generation of icky, angsty, binspirational/b books for teens b.../b/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fCalgary Herald,nbsp; Canadanbsp;-/font nobr18 hours ago/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1by Hunter S. Thompson In high school my best buddy Gavin and I fancied ourselves literary snobs. We read Dostoevsky--he was our favourite--and Tolstoy and b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.stjohns.edu/academics/pr_aca_081010.stjcid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNE6VZp2yI19niaLBl8rbzhhRWlLIgbInspirational/b Speaker Teaches Students the Value of “Zing!”/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fSt. John's University,nbsp;NYnbsp;-/font nobr12 hours ago/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1b.../b Your Influence and was featured in the motivational speaker compilation Lessons from the Road: bInspirational/b Insights by Leading Speakers in Education. b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.marketwatch.com/news/story/without-quarter-my-pocket-new/story.aspx%3Fguid%3D%257B7C5AD198-AAD6-412F-ADE8-009ABF5FBDE2%257D%26dist%3Dhpprcid=1255491471ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFpeXmgt-DJpyZgbt_xo17JHBbCMg#39;Without a Quarter in My Pocket#39;: New Memoir Chronicles Cuban b.../b/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fMarketWatchnbsp;-/font nobrOct 8, 2008/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1SALEM, Ill., Oct 08, 2008 /PRNewswire via COMTEX/ -- Dr. Secundino E. Rubio#39;s life is a series of binspirational/b stories. From his childhood in pre-Castro b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.packetonline.com/articles/2008/10/09/windsor_hights_herald/your_views/doc48ee728cb4bc7195032603.txtcid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFl3Bv9Y6NISdS09b5ZkNh4zgGIBQConcert event was binspirational/b/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fPacket Online,nbsp;NJnbsp;-/font nobrOct 9, 2008/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1Having the world-renowned recorder player from the Netherlands, Marion Verbruggen, appear the Slowdown Café in Hightstown in a concert with full proceeds to b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://ukpress.google.com/article/ALeqM5jFR4b_x9lQIQO8tJg_TmOKWyq_JAcid=1255308338ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNFXVl4DMEIGf4ysgGEGbp987MceiwDemure look for binspirational/b Helen/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fThe Press Associationnbsp;-/font nobrOct 8, 2008/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1Actress Dame Helen Mirren looked unusually demure when she collected an award for her fashion sense. Dame Helen, who is known for her love of revealing b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.dailypost.co.uk/news/north-wales-news/2008/10/09/inspirational-visit-to-north-wales-55578-21996564/cid=0ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNEs8W_2oCJuwVTmMsFkD-aS7y-9vw‘bInspirational/b’ visit to North Wales/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fDaily Post,nbsp;UKnbsp;-/font nobrOct 9, 2008/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1Speaking to the Daily Post last night, he said his North Wales visits had been “binspirational/b.” The Time to Talk – Time to Listen Tour is into its second b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://www.usatoday.com/money/smallbusiness/columnist/abrams/2008-10-10-lessons-from-eleanor-roosevelt_N.htmcid=1256074505ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNENQUqDyJw7YIL4aBOP1vyYlzmhGwStrategies: Eleanor Roosevelt#39;s story inspires, especially now/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fUSA Todaynbsp;-/font nobr21 hours ago/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1One of the most binspirational/b leaders of that time is one of my role models: first lady Eleanor Roosevelt. Because this week marks the anniversary of b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
table border=0 width= valign=top cellpadding=2 cellspacing=7trtd valign=top class=jfont style=font-size:85%;font-family:arial,sans-serifbrdiv style=padding-top:0.8em;img alt= height=1 width=1/divdiv class=lha href=http://www.citywebshopper.net/articles/includes/redirect.php?url=http://voices.washingtonpost.com/the-trail/2008/10/08/obama_asks_supporters_to_belie.htmlcid=1255517058ei=rxbwSKvhJY3W6gOS1dmyBwusg=AFQjCNHKmy01Pjox82op1BWoYf2P70LnwAObama Asks Supporters to #39;Believe#39;/abrfont size=-1font color=#6f6f6fWashington Post,nbsp;United Statesnbsp;-/font nobrOct 8, 2008/nobr/fontbrfont size=-1By Robert Barnes INDIANAPOLIS -- Democratic presidential nominee Barack Obama followed last night#39;s debate with a confident and binspirational/b speech that b.../b/font/div/font/td/tr/table
inspirational - Google News

Conspiracy of Silence

Direct Answers - Column for the week of January 12,... Read More

Heart

Direct Answers - Column for the week of May 24,... Read More

Without Love

Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 30,... Read More

Growing From Good To Great

I have never been fond of white-water rafting, probably because... Read More

Forcing Inspiration

Most people, when they have to complete a creative endeavour,... Read More

Game-Set-Match

Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 21,... Read More

Making Commitments of Love and Courage

There is a story about a little girl who suffered... Read More

Circles On The Water ? The Impact You Make On People?s Lives

When you were a child, or maybe even when you... Read More

A Life of Purposes Extraction

Purpose. What is purpose? Drinking coffee when you wake up... Read More

Take Out Time -- To Just Be Thankful

While sitting here tonight, watching the conclusion of "There Are... Read More

How To Weather Lifes Inevitable Storms

In the Northeast, we have a few months to prepare... Read More

Freudian Slip

Direct Answers - Column for the week of November 17,... Read More

What Does Faith Have To Do With Marketing?

No, this isn't going to be a sermon or anything... Read More

Mirror, Mirror -- What Do I See?

"A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile... Read More

Fear Factor

What is it that stops you from jumping off a... Read More

Wow a Butterfly!

Okay, I am sure that you clicked on this title... Read More

Charge Your Imagination (3)

As we progress into the year, it is necessary for... Read More

Anamchara - Living An Essential Life

What is essential in your life? This question contains one... Read More

Consulting Your Soul

Recently I approached a traffic light where a man stood... Read More

Make A Difference - Just Go Make A Difference!

Three Words That Can Help Us Live Exceptional LivesCertain words... Read More

Moment of Grace

The bedrock of the Christian faith is the good news... Read More

The Cracked Pot

Letters on Life#3Some experiences you never forget. In some of... Read More

Anamchara - Living a Meaningful Life

At some stage of living your life you will ask... Read More

Life is About Choosing

Back to our youth days, we were taught that by... Read More

Taking Life Head On

"We are built to conquer environment, solve problems, achieve goals... Read More