|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Life is too hard and too risky in the eyes of many. By contrast, others are such proponents of a virile existence, demanding great courage and giving great pride, that they are ready to leave the coziness of their home to scale Mount Everest and breast the elements for the sheer joy of conquering the summit. Whatever the perspective, the nature of things remains unchanged. There are rules, necessities and duties, and limits, possibilities and impossibilities. Until doom, one can accept them and make the best of them, much to one's pleasure and honor, or one can do the opposite and suffer the consequences. The choice between these two options is the very essence of freedom. Personally, I have no use for the second option: a self-inflicted misery that is without the slightest doubt a pitiable way of life.
The first option, on the other hand, is a pleasurable and honorable alternative that I find compelling, though uphill. It is applicable to any situation encountered in the course of one's living venture, provided one is not unfortunate to the point of being hopelessly unable to cope. The range of this applicability corresponds with the range of one's adaptability. It is normally considerable, despite the tendency to cling to old gratifying habits even after they have become impracticable or unsuitable, owing to a change of situation. One can be weaned from such habits onto new gratifying habits, in the same way as a baby can be weaned onto solids. The more the change is significant and one is reluctant to adapt to it, the more the weaning process is difficult and long in producing the desired effect. Again, the only option worthy of one's attention consists in taking things as they come and making the most of them, for one's sake and that of others. The reverse is foolish and harmful, a deplorable waste of humanity.
On the whole, the power to live in a well-adjusted and high-minded way and the freedom to choose this way in preference to the alternate, illegitimate, way are the foundations of the life one builds. The exercise of this power does not necessarily imply a principled resignation toward the status quo. One may be faced with a remediable evil that calls for a struggle to remedy it, effectively and rightly. In that case, living in a well-adjusted and high-minded way entails accepting the need for this struggle and the means of waging it, and sparing no effort to attain one's end. Ills are a test of will, an opportunity to show dignity.
They are also an opportunity to probe and appraise one's inner resources. Over the years, I have improved my situation and especially my attitude, whose negativity was the most unfavorable and improvable aspect of my life. In so doing, I have discovered my true richness. Nature has endowed me with an adaptable capacity for happiness within the limits of my changeable reality. According to my observations, this capacity is not unusually great, compared with that of most people. I am even tempted to think it is somewhat lagging behind. Eleven years plus to adapt in triumph to my physical disability is no feat for the Guinness Book of World Records!
During that time, the riddle of life had more or less baffled me. Yet, laboriously, with the help of many books and much thought, I had managed by degrees to clear it up, enough to find a meaning to my life. This riddle is comparable to a mire: The slower you go through it, the deeper you get into it. Perhaps thinkers are commonly untalented in the art of living and their saving grace is their dogged determination to redeem this lack of talent by dint of studying the human soul. Amusingly enough, these untalented individuals are often perceived as gifted, once they have seen the light and reflected it with the numerous mirrors of an elaborate analysis, after a tentative and protracted search in the dark.
This sort of overcompensation is typical of people who experience difficulties in a certain area, but refuse to admit defeat. While some fare well in this area with a minimum of effort, they try hard to overcome these difficulties, with the result that they often fare better than the others. Their redeeming feature is their willpower in the face of their shortcoming, which they use as a reason to redouble their efforts, not as an excuse to throw in the towel. This is a recipe for a worthy success. They discipline and surpass themselves, and thus proudly turn things around.
Laurent Grenier's writing career spans over twenty years. During this time he has broadened and deepened his worldview, by dint of much reflection and study, and in the end has crafted "A Reason for Living," his best work to date.
Official web site: http://laurentgrenier.com/ARFL.html
"How are you doing?" you ask. There's a pause before... Read More
Each of us has two distinct choices to make about... Read More
"In real love you want the other person's good. In... Read More
I have always wondered how the Red Sea parted as... Read More
A man is known by the company he keeps. We... Read More
Purpose. What is purpose? Drinking coffee when you wake up... Read More
Have you ever said thank-you to the cow that provided... Read More
We all accept the fact that the lighter the backpack,... Read More
What kind of bad habits do you struggle with? Most... Read More
Fulfilling your dreams will remain a mirage if you simply... Read More
As we've reached the half way point of the year... Read More
Perhaps I should ask my doctor if there is a... Read More
The direction of our lives is determined by the choices... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of April 21,... Read More
"It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you... Read More
Ah, the good old "Vulcan nerve pinch", the three-fingered salute,... Read More
I'm often asked the question, "How can I best help... Read More
You Can Overcome panic attacks and anxiety! That is great... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 2,... Read More
I have always thought that grandparents were the icons of... Read More
In denial, I was slow to accept Multiple Sclerosis. Who,... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of October 21,... Read More
You, my friend, are going to die.What? What kind of... Read More
Judge not, lest ye be judged. ?Matthew 7:1The call was... Read More
When I was twenty-two, I was befriended by a woman... Read More
The other night I was watching a documentary on that... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 2,... Read More
Life is full of problems.The more you solve them, the... Read More
You know kids, one of the things I've learned by... Read More
There is an old proverb with a lot of wisdom.... Read More
I've always loved the awesome majesty of mountains. They are,... Read More
Continued....I have since grown a lot. I have grown through... Read More
When people talk about enrichment, they are usually thinking of... Read More
When life has you feeling less than happy, and you... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of November 24,... Read More
Maybe you've heard this one:"What does it profit a man... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of October 14,... Read More
These days, I find the lines are blurred between school... Read More
Why is it so difficult to hold steadfast to a... Read More
So who is Dr Robert Anthony?He is the best-selling author... Read More
Given a steady wind and a properly balanced kite, the... Read More
Self-confidence is your assessment of your own self-worth. It plays... Read More
How come, as women, we always second-guess ourselves? Are we... Read More
Here is the typical life ? typical, though not everybody... Read More
My name is Chas Brothers. Many of you know me... Read More
Have you ever wanted to do something really major-something stupendous-something... Read More
Encouragement can have a very powerful effect on bosses and... Read More
Everyday I meet people who have a chronic upset that... Read More
Self esteem.Now there's a well used and little understood term.... Read More
Letters on Life#3Some experiences you never forget. In some of... Read More
Inspirational |